MISS are currently running all of the support groups online through Zoom however when the covid restrictions allow, we will be returning to some of the face sessions as well as keeping with some of the online sessions. This may help with some members for travel, returning to work etc.
There is a speaker who delivers approximately a 30 minute workshop with questions after. We have a different speaker each month to provide information, advice as well as giving tips on coping strategies after a loss and how to move forward.
Some of the previous speakers we have had:
- Senior midwife, Myra Kinnaird at Aberdeen Maternity Hospital
- Kadampa Meditation Centre
- IVF London
- Nourishing Insights
- Miscarriage Association
- Alternatives Listening Rooms
The evening finishes with open discussion and a poem/short story to finish.
Another group is held on the third Monday of each month from 10-11am, this is is a cuppa and chat session!
One to One Sessions
We also offer one to one sessions with any new or existing members.
Meeting at a quiet, relaxing and public space or on Zoom (with or without video) which is flexible for both the MISS volunteer and member to speak. Sessions can vary for duration and how long is required by member, 20 minutes or 2 hours. This time can be used for you to share your experience, cry, ask questions or anything else. We are here to support and listen.
Reach us on 07808638428 (all calls are free, confidential and not recorded)
One of our MISS volunteers will be available to speak to you at any time of day. This could be speaking on the phone, Whatsapp or by message. We have a male and female volunteer available to speak. We are open throughout all holidays and seasons as we appreciate that every day can be a milestone or anniversary for your baby.
Pregnancy After Loss
Held 1st Thursday of each month from 930-1130am – one to one online sessions with Myra Kinnaird
This is for women who are now pregnant, previously had a miscarriage and feeling anxious. Or for any ladies who are not able to fall pregnant.
As well as this, we offer “Pregnancy After Loss” bags for any ladies who are pregnant or trying again which are free of charge and are posted out. They can include several self-care and therapeutic items including:
- Flower seeds
- Journal and pen
- NO7 body lotion/cleansing wipes
- Recommended reading/podcast list
- Flyers for local businesses/charities which can provide additional support
- Knitted white heart
If you would like to receive one of these bags please send your name and address to: firstname.lastname@example.org
“I wanted to send a couple of lines of feedback about receiving the Next Pregnancy Support Pack. I felt a bit silly taking the pack at first. My miscarriages have all been quite early and I sometimes feel like I can’t treat them as “real” losses. Accepting the pack was a big deal for me and it was so appreciated. I loved the essential oil and knitted heart especially. I now have a night routine with essential oils in a diffuser and it has really helped my sleep. My daughter now uses the knitted heart as a little blanket for a tiny soft toy and it always makes me smile when I see it and remember how far I have come. I also use the little bag the pack came in all the time it’s so handy!”
“It was so lovely to receive my pregnancy after loss bag through the post. It had some self-care goodies as well as really helpful resources such as pregnancy after loss podcasts and reading material which I’ll definitely be looking at. Early pregnancy after miscarrying is a nervous time but the MISS bag came with everything I could need right now, I was so grateful to receive one.”
On the 3rd Wednesday of each month, our Male Support Lead Volunteer (Euan Bruce) is available to meet for a 1:1 online session for a 20 minute session from 7pm.
We would like to encourage men to attend our support group, call our phone service and attend our events. We would like to ensure that men are supported after a miscarriage too as they have become a parent and lost their baby. Miscarriage is a taboo subject but we would like to encourage both male and females to open up about their experience.
Although miscarriage is a loss for you both, it happened physically for a women. However men may be affected from an emotional point of view. Simply being there for your partner by listening and giving her a shoulder to cry on is often what most women want from their partners. We welcome men to attend our support groups, fundraising events and other MISS activities.
If you would like to book an appointment please email: email@example.com
Keep a lookout on our social media for males only activities and events!
A Different Pathway
MISS are delighted to confirm we now have “A Different Pathway” services which is for bereaved parents who habe decided not to continue their journey trying to conceive as well as for bereaved parents who are looking at alternatives ways such as adopting or fostering. For more information visit our Facebook page on: MISS A Different Pathway
When trying for a baby stops…
Many women and couples will try to get pregnant again following a miscarriage, and keep trying even through multiple losses. Statistically, the majority will eventually have a ‘rainbow baby’ in their lives. But some women and partners will also come to a point where they wonder if they should stop trying. This can be a difficult and lonely place even within the miscarriage community, and it’s not talked about very much.
Thinking about stopping trying can be very tough for couples who already have a child or children, and would still like to add to their family. For women and couples who don’t have children, or don’t have children together, these thoughts can be especially hard and painful. Couples may also feel differently about continuing the attempts to have a baby, which can cause friction in the relationship.
There are no right or wrong reasons for the trying to stop, and you should never have to justify your thoughts and decisions to anyone. However, it might be helpful to know that some of the reasons people may have include
- Trauma of the loss/es – a single miscarriage can be devastating, regardless of when in the pregnancy it happened
- Repeated losses
- Fertility problems
- Parental age
- Social, financial or relationship issues
- Starting to prepare for adoption
It may also help to think of stopping as a process over time, and not a clear cut decision you must make and then stick to rigidly. It’s quite normal to make and reverse the decision to stop trying several times as you work through your feelings – and you can always change your mind. Even allowing yourself to think about stopping can feel like a huge step. However, it can also be empowering and gradually give you a sense of control, as well as breathing space to imagine other kinds of futures.
If adoption is something you might consider, most agencies require you to not have tried to conceive for a set period of time before you can start adoption counselling. Parental age is usually a factor when very young children are matched with adoptive parents so this may be something you need to be aware of.
The Miscarriage Association have also published a booklet on this topic which you can find at https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/leaflet/when-the-trying-stops/
Whatever you decide to do, please know that the MISS community is here for you and supports your choices.
At MISS we would like to ensure that our members feel supported at any time of day, evening or holidays. Our support includes monthly support groups, next pregnancy support, phone service and social media pages. We work closely with the Bereavement Team at Aberdeen Maternity Hospital so if there are any questions we cannot answer or would like additional advice we can get in touch with them and receive a quick response. There are also several other organisations in the UK which you can contact for support, advice and information which are listed below alphabetically.
Please note that MISS cannot be held responsible for any information, advice or services provided by the organisations below. We hope you find these helpful.
We would appreciate that if you have any feedback on the MISS phone service or any of the organisations below (both positive or negative) please email this to: firstname.lastname@example.org as this is how we can improve all of our services.
Aberdeen Chiropractic Clinic
Alternatives Listening Rooms
Cruse Bereavement Care
Make Minds Matter
Possibilities Counselling and Psychotherapy Centre
Personalised loss books – 10% OFF with code
Choices Aberdeen – Promoting & Supporting Positive Relationships
Miki Stefan Complementary Therapies
Miscarriage for men
St Andrew’s Children’s Society